Pot Plants, Tighty Wighties, Arses, Six Packs, BULges, soft fades, different angles, shot on iphone X, shot on something better, strained but pensive facial expressions?! WHO DOESN’T LIKE IT! I sure love to beat off to a hackney fantasy of that white wall warehouse draped in soft skin, cheese plants, Eames chairs and muscled bodies.
But when you tell me on your insta profile that you are a writer, contributer, photographer, activist, queerdo, designer, film maker, musician, doctor, psychotherapist, knitting fanatic and gay Francis of Assisi yet not one of your pictures isn’t a fully informed thirst trap?! – all of sudden i’m confused. And it gets my goat!!
First of all, you are clearly giving me SOFT PORN ACTOR realness and a shit load of wank bank material. WHICH IS ALL COOL! I follow plenty of “hot” guys and use tumblr almost daily for my relief and pleasure. But that is my responsibility! It’s up to me to decide how much porn I watch, how healthy it is for me and what I do with those emotions. AND I KNOW it’s porn.
But when we claim that this is somehow NOT JUST PORN, and it is something MORE, not only do we patronise and confuse the supposed omnipotent queer minds roaming fields of feeds, we also deplete and pedestal ourselves above porn actors; which has the effect of demonising people who AREN’T ashamed to describe what they are contributing to the aesthetic world of social media.
I am certainly not saying that one cannot be both an artist, agricultural specialist and porn star all at the same time. And i’m especially not saying that porn can’t be arty and art can’t be porny and for sure those lines are and should be blurred much of the time. Hell! I write a blog called ARTPORNBLOG ffs!
AND I POST PLENTY OF SELFIES FOR THAT QUICK GRATIFICATION!
But it bothers me when we pretend it’s something it’s not to somehow makes us feel better about ourslves and what we are doing and denying moral and emotional rest to people who allow themselves to actually be called porn actors.
Sex work IS a thing. And SUPER common amongst queer communities. For sure it can be problematic – but it’s a part of our culture and a way we survive and utilise what we have to survive. AND it can be super enjoyable and rewarding. I’ve been a stripper, a gogo, an insta boy and an underground slut.
Maybe we should think twice before hurling a sexy selfie into the social pool. Do I want likes? Is this good for my soul? Will I regret this tomorrow? Is it hurting someone else to put this out? Whatever the answer to these questions, one can make a clear choice.
But the second I begin to elude myself and tell others via my profile bio that (cue mysterious voice) “This is not poooorn, this is something more refiiiined, i’m special and differeeeent, #nofilteeeeer, #mysteriousartydickpicwithaweepingwillowinthebackground, i’m better than those cheap porn actors who don’t know how to use a soft fade or go to conservatory archives because I have green fingers and I also do headshots for danceeeeers”!!! Then I am robbing my queer peers of their clarity and intelligence and I am ignoring my responsibilty to acknowledge what I am putting out into the world.
I suppose my issue here is that, by doing this, I am not respecting the community that we like I to be a part of. A. because I’m “othering” sex workers while still getting the attention. And B. I’m downright denying myself the opportunity to respect my own feelings in exchange for likes of my arse when in truth I want to be respected also for what is in my brain.
SO SHOW US YOUR BRAIN! And if your brain is filled with big dicks and echinacia then be proud Miss HUNAAY! That insta bio should read… “I’m passionate about Holland and Barrett and how it makes the skin on my ass glow like a fat peach that you can spaff on from the comfort of your own home!” and if you like… “PS, in my non visual aesthetic social media life I am actually a qualified agriculturist with a PHD in biokinetics! If you wish to learn more about that then when you are done wanking over me DM me and I’ll send you some faves from my extensive reading list.” OR show us a pic of your fave current social and gender studies article whilst you are practicing body positivity in the visual section so we really know what you are trying to say.
AND MOST OF ALL, LET US NOT FORGET THE POWER OF WORDS AND WHAT WE PUT OUT INTO THE ETHER! I am well aware that ART has a highly debated definiton and infinite potential forms.
But as far as I can see there is nothing revolutionary, questioning, thought provoking, mysterious, interesting or communicative on a multi-faceted level in the 300 posts of your ass in different positions. Regardless of whether or not you think this reads as contributor or architect. (ooh maybe you could write ARSEchitect!) Now THAT is appealing!
I think Francois Sagat did a pretty good job at shaking the porn world up for that period from about 10-2 years ago. Pornceptual can be fairly pot planty at times but they also KNOW it’s porn! They KNOW, they ARE NOT ASHAMED! Because THEY HAVE NO REASON TO BE! They take RESPONSIBILTY for what they put out in the world.
YOUR ONLYFANS PAGE WITH IT’S OWN DOMAIN NAME WON’T BUILD THE NEW REPUBLIC!
Uncle Ben said “with a great insta following comes great responsibilty”.
So let us not confuse each other. (Unless that’s the informed purpose of your art). Which i’m pretty sure it’s not. 😉
PS, this is a conversation, so if you’re angry at this writing, please feel free to message me “on a social media platform near you!” about my thoughts and opinions.
Opinions copyrite of Ted Rogers “Artpornblog”